Do you find it difficult to say no? Do you say yes to plans because you feel obligated or guilty? Are you a people pleaser? If you have answered yes to these questions, this article is for you.
What are boundaries?
Essentially, boundaries help you define what you are comfortable with and how you would like to be treated by others. Boundaries apply to any kind of relationship you will engage in. Boundaries can be physical or emotional.
Examples of boundaries
· I want to spend weekends with family
· I need time to myself
· Don’t humiliate me in front of other people
· Don’t invade my personal space
Defining your boundaries
It can be very helpful to think about what your boundaries are. Start by thinking about what makes you feel uncomfortable? what is important to you? what won’t you compromise on? what is your deal breaker? Once you’ve answered these questions for yourself, it will be easy for you to outline your boundaries. Once you’ve established what your boundaries are the next step is to communicate your boundaries.
Communicating your boundaries
You can communicate boundaries with your loved ones anywhere and anytime. You can start the conversation with a simple statement like “I don’t like it when you …” or “I feel uncomfortable when you… and I’d prefer if you’d stop”. Boundaries should be respected in any relationship.
Ultimately, self-awareness and assertiveness are key features of boundary setting. Setting boundaries isn’t selfish and can help you have healthier relationships with the people you love.
LEARN MORE : PODCAST 139: How to Set Boundaries w/ Nancy Levin